Infertility: Is someone to blame?

Infertility can be a very touchy subject for many couples. Watching other couples have babies while you’re trying so hard to conceive can be unnerving and heartbreaking for a couple. Although it is a sensitive issue for both parties, there may be a tendency to blame someone.

It is part of human nature to blame someone else if something goes wrong. This happens in all areas of life, whether at work, among friends, with family, or in relationships. When something happens that is not according to plan, we try to find the root of the problem and who was there when the problem started. We then investigate whether that person intentionally caused the problem or knowingly followed you while they could have stopped you. And that’s where the blame begins. This can be very damaging to any relationship.

When infertility enters the scene, we are not exempt from this process because we want to find a solution. Instead, this could backfire and cause a dangerous case of the blame game. Whether he blames himself or his partner, either could be detrimental to the health of their relationship. If a husband blames his wife, it can affect her confidence and self-esteem, which could affect how she interacts with her husband and others. If a wife blames her husband, it can affect her ego and masculinity. He could feel castrated and not man enough for his wife. The blame game can break both partners leaving them to be a shell of their former selves.

Whether infertility problems lie with the man or the woman, it is important not to blame anyone. Many of the factors that cause infertility may have been unavoidable. If it is avoidable or reversible, then you have a means of moving forward. Blaming doesn’t solve the problem, working together as a couple with your fertility doctor does. At the fertility clinic, a fertility doctor will be able to provide you with a course of treatment tailored to your fertility issues. As a couple, you need to support each other during this time because stress can lower your chance of conception. So it is essential that both remain calm and continue with their lives as a normal couple.

Infertility can be tough and it can be a long journey. However, if they have a strong foundation as a couple, they can get through this.