Provocation and Denial: An Essential Guide for Men in Chastity

Teasing and denial, in the context of male chastity, is where a woman (usually because gay men play male chastity too), will repeatedly bring her man to the brink of orgasm…and then will stop. I know it seems cruel, ruthless and even evil, but really…

It is for most men an essential element of male chastity, especially if his chastity is to be taken a bit more seriously than a brief game of chastity.

Why?

Well, to answer that, let’s see what male chastity is intended to accomplish.

The first thing to understand is that male chastity is not the same as male celibacy. Celibacy is something you will typically find in a cold, stale, unhappy marriage or relationship where there is often no sexual contact at all. And, in my experience, both men and women in celibate relationships are not happy about this (and it has to be said, this is a root cause of many issues).

Male chastity, on the other hand, is something that is practiced between loving couples who want more intimacy and sex together and choose to achieve this by giving the woman control of the man’s orgasms. The net result of this over time is that your relationship becomes much more like relationships when they are new, with each focusing more and more on the other’s physical and emotional needs.

Now, this is all very well and good, but unless your man is the submissive type, and most men interested in male chastity are NOT submissive, him simply catering to your sexual needs is not enough, and he just ‘ shut it down and leave it’ is not going to make for a happy foray into male chastity.

And the answer is, of course, Tease and Denial.

It can be difficult at first, not only emotionally (because your man is going to be begging you to make him orgasm, and you’ve had the better part of your adulthood conditioning yourself to allow that) but also physically because the sad truth is that many women don’t know their man’s physiology well enough to know when he’s about to come (in other words, they don’t stop in time!).

But that’s not a big deal, and as long as you’re adult and sensitive about it, and ‘accidents’ aren’t a big deal, unless you decide to make them one.

Fortunately, it doesn’t take long to learn this essential skill and once you really get used to it that while your man wants come the yearns denial, you will realize how amazing the male chastity lifestyle really is. And once you get practiced at this, you’ll find that you can keep your man active with several T&D sessions a week, and I can tell you from my own experience with John, my husband, that that’s more than enough to keep him in his place. . toes!

If you’ve been looking for information on male chastity and tease and denial, you’ve probably been turned off and discouraged by the amount of nonsense written by sad wannabes who have no real idea about the lifestyle.