If you don’t know where you stand with him

If you are dating a guy and when you are together, everything is great. The chemistry is through the roof and what a connection. Does he feel it too? He didn’t mention being exclusive and you wonder if you should date someone else. You wonder if she’s dating someone else. You don’t want to, but you are afraid to bring it up for fear of scaring him off. You still don’t know how it feels or what your position is.

Then there is the moment when they are not together. You can text or call a few times a week. If you’re lucky, you go on a date with him once a week and they usually end up sleeping together. However, he has not mentioned that you are a couple or that you are his girl. You have no idea how he really feels because he hasn’t told you. You don’t know where you stand with this guy.

A man who sleeps with you once a week, maybe calls or texts you a couple of times, and is quiet for days, he doesn’t see you as his girlfriend. If he did, he would be saving the weekends to yourself, introducing you to his family and friends, and including you in his daily life. You would know what happens in his life when he is not with you because he calls you every day to tell you.

You may be thinking, but this guy convinced me. It made me believe we had something. This is not true. It is more than likely that he did not guide you. His behavior is his way of protecting you from getting attached to him. Boys do it, girls do it. Put the shoe on the other foot. Have you ever had a guy inside of you that maybe you liked but didn’t see in the long run? Maybe you kept dating him, but you kept him at arm’s length. Maybe you didn’t answer all of their calls or didn’t return them right away. Maybe you just did a slow fade. Maybe you keep watching to see if something grows.

Are you trying to hurt him? Are you a commitment phobic? Are you lying to him? No, of course you are not. You are just not feeling it. If it was, it would act in a completely different way. It won’t wonder where it is, which is probably if you’re doing the slow fade-in and fade-out.

If you don’t know where you stand with a man, watch his actions and not on the date. See how he acts after the date in the next few days. If he does not call you to tell you that he had a good time and make another appointment, it is very likely that he is balancing to keep you close, he also likes to sleep with you, do not forget. He keeps his distance there to prevent you from falling in love with him.

It comes back from time to time because you are their choice, until something better comes along. Again you go out, the attraction is strong and you hold on to it waiting for it to see the light. It rarely happens, the pattern continues. Eventually he becomes one of the many men who disappear. If you can’t figure out where you stand with a man, you can bet you’re not in any special place.