Does your grief make you feel sorry for yourself, drowning in intense and endless pain?

“I can try to protect myself from my sadness by not talking about my loss. I can secretly hope that the person who died will come back if I don’t talk about it. However, as hard as it is, I must feel it to heal.” that.” ~Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Pain is a powerful force that humiliates even the strongest of character. The pain of sadness makes almost everyone feel sorry for themselves. You are no exception, the grievance has invited you to a pity party; you can stay as long as you choose. Some feel sorry for a long time. Others are able to muster the strength they didn’t know they had and overcome their misery and start building happiness again. Everyone must feel and understand their grievance in order to heal. Something to think about is whether and for how long your complaining experience has made you feel sorry for yourself.

You can’t get your old life back.

As much as you wish, as much as you pray and hope, you cannot make your life go back to the way it was before. It can be very complex and painful when someone you love dies or you experience some other horrible and lasting consequence in your life. Dealing with who or what you have lost is like inviting a cloud of dark mist to suffocate you as it hangs around your neck, every waking moment. Understanding your thoughts and feelings is challenging. Fixing what happened and how you are dealing with the new now in your life may seem pointless. Terror, resentment, sadness, depression, mourning, even hate and anger can describe your hurtful emotions. After your extreme and painful accident, you are likely to feel sorry for yourself. You may often feel sorry for yourself. You are in the midst of an overwhelming crisis. Oh, how can you wish for your old life back! The big question you have to answer for yourself is how long it will take me to reconcile my grievance.

Crying releases tension and expresses your need to be comforted.

Tears will not bring back who or what you have lost. Tears can actually make you feel better. The ability to release your emotions through crying can help you begin your healing journey as you learn to understand your grievance and move toward greater joy. Let’s face it head on: the tragedy in our life makes us feel pain for our new circumstance and for ourselves. It is unwise and probably unrealistic for you to assume or declare that you have everything under control. Let’s be honest, you probably said why, or why did this happen to me, or woe is me! In many Eastern countries, sobbing and crying are understood as a normal part of mourning and mourning.

when my leg was amputated

My grievance made me feel sorry for myself. I was absolutely flabbergasted when my doctor stood at my bedside with a serious look on his face and said, “Duane, you really have two options: Sometime next year, chances are you can go and sing with the biggest choirs.” there, or we amputate.” My beloved Joan, a companion of many years, was there in the room. When I looked at her and saw her cry, bottomless emotions flooded us. while we listened to Dr. Beal explain the whys and wherefores. His description was very clear of how quickly the type and progress of the staph infection he had could take my life.

Scared, terrified, panicked are words that come to mind. I felt devastated. Passionate fear of this magnitude had never been a part of my life experiences. My fears went off my emotional chart! As he left the room, he said, “It needs to be decided soon. We’ve tried everything medically we can do to destroy that staph infection, but it’s rapidly moving up the leg bone and will soon move to other parts of your body.” Even after fourteen years I still remember my emotions. As I mentioned, I was scared, terrified, panicked like never before. Yes, I felt sorry for myself. I felt devastated. Passionate fear of this magnitude had never been a part of my life experiences. My fears went off my emotional chart!

I quickly realized how little anything else mattered to me now that I wasn’t sure how much time I had left on earth. I felt a higher level of intensity and passion for taking care of myself. My prayers became more focused. I reflected on why some people experience illnesses like cancer or other extreme circumstances and others don’t. No doubt he had taken life for granted believing he had plenty of time and how precious each day really is! I wondered why this happened to me. I soon realized that it is a useless dead end question. Instead, my thoughts turned to this thing that is happening to me, now what do I do?

It is beneficial to ask yourself how long you should feel sorry for yourself.

It is not a recently discovered fact, life is not far away. You may very well be justified in feeling sorry for yourself. His trial may be due to a horrible tragedy. It may be necessary for you to have a small, brief party. You may have considered a short break from everything. However, you cannot wait to wake up from your winter of hibernation to expect a wonderful positive and joyous transformation in your life. Nothing has changed during your sympathy period.

As much as you wish, pray and hope that you cannot return your life to the way it was before. Some circumstances resulting from what has caused your grievance can always be a part of your life as you move forward. You can often feel sorry for your loss. You will never stop loving someone even if they are gone. You can always die for what you can no longer have. Afflictions and pains happen. Your best question to answer for yourself is how long it will take me to reconcile my complaint. Reconciling your grievance, getting over your pain, and pursuing a happier, more meaningful life is worth all your effort. It’s okay to feel sorry for your grievance-stricken state of affairs. However, don’t let your pain stop your efforts to make your own new happiness.