Dealing With An Arrogant Husband: How To Cut Him Down To Size

You never know what the road ahead of you will bring as you walk down the aisle to married bliss. Marriage is often very different from love life and there may be aspects of her husband’s personality that he didn’t even know existed before becoming his wife. One of those qualities is often arrogance. Some men are masters at hiding this part of themselves while they’re busy hitting on a woman. However, once a couple has settled into married life, all those little secrets often come out. If you currently live with a husband whose ego is bigger than both of yours, that’s an issue you can obviously ignore. Dealing with an arrogant husband requires patience, measured distance, and a deep understanding of what makes him tick.

Arrogant people almost always lack self-esteem. This seems ridiculous at first glance. How can someone who seems so in love with himself feel any kind of self-esteem issue? It’s about compensating for her insecurities by treating others in a very specific and negative way. When you are dealing with an arrogant husband, you must truly understand that her problems have much more to do with him than with you.

If you want to cut him down to size, you need to emotionally distance yourself from his selfish behavior. If he lets his arrogance shine through when the two of you are out in public, stay away from him. Do not become an accomplice in your mistreatment of others. If he prefers to use you as a target to boost his self-esteem, distance yourself from him. That may mean spending less time focusing on him and more time doing the things you enjoy. If there is no one to engage in this type of negative behavior, her husband will not feel that he is accomplishing anything by continuing to do so.

You also have to call him about behavior that you don’t think is appropriate. However, this must be done in a very measured way. Simply telling an arrogant person that you think they are arrogant won’t accomplish much. They will take your interest as beneficial and feel more important because you are showing so much emotion. It’s much better to sternly tell your husband that you’re not attracted to him when he acts that way and you’re embarrassed to be in his presence. Obviously, this is tough love and it will hurt when you hear it. However, it has the potential to really get to the emotional core of him and make him think for a moment about what he’s doing.

Some people suggest that the best way to deal with an arrogant husband is to give him a taste of his own medicine. Clearly, you’re not like him and you don’t want to become like him. It is better not to get into these childish games with your spouse. It’s much better to calmly express your disappointment and then create some distance. This is a great way to get your message across in a mature and rational way.