Committed Relationships – Overcoming Guilt, Pain and Judgment

What is the core emotion, belief system, and behaviors that you operate from in your life? This is what makes up your love story and your love habits, which is what your soul has come to learn.

Your soul chooses your personality (introvert, extrovert, the country you were born in, your body, your natural gifts, etc.), your parents and your life story so that you learn to overcome the challenges of love.

Sometimes the challenges you face in love and relationships don’t make logical sense.

That is when it is helpful to look at the emotions to understand why the soul thinks about these emotions and what the soul and the person have come to learn. Through understanding, you can make sense of your suffering, but not suffer for the suffering.

The person also chooses a certain Body to learn certain lessons, and this choice is based on what they need to learn or what you need to help them learn.

I teach how to listen and talk with your body and balance your emotions so that your love life is freed from the suffering of old love habits that do not make you live the love you want.

In these times of “shift” from the old paradigm to the new paradigm, many couples are experiencing high levels of discontent because the male and female role models are moving from being fixed to being flexible.

We are still anchored in the heart through love, but the masculine and feminine roles are being asked to let go of attachment to what we expect the other person to be or do, so that we can grow into higher forms of love that are unrestricted. for our society. . And instead connect to universal and unconditional forms of love where we see the person in their entirety and accept them without going into what our minds may think or want the other person to be.

Higher forms of love are now available because the planet is evolving into a higher consciousness, which the planet has never had access to before. The ‘change’ means that the relationships are changing in their dynamics. Couples are being challenged to go beyond their bickering and mental chatter to ask what true love is, for them individually or as a couple. As a consequence, old fears (from this life and previous lives) are surfacing wherever anyone and everybody the wounds will be re-experienced, so that we can let them go, heal, understand and forgive.

Couples at this time have increased support from the higher forms of love that now support the planet to do this within relationships. As a coach, I help couples, individuals, and groups learn about this and teach them how to support themselves and/or their partner as old hurts come up to be acknowledged and ultimately processed.

I don’t believe that if someone “fails” in a relationship, they are not loving themselves efficiently or ‘enough’ or that they are missing out on a process that will keep their lover or save the relationship. This is what the linear and logical mind would say as a way of measuring success by material reality. Love is not measured by experiencing life without pain, breakups, conflicts, sadness, or happiness forever. Love is measured by how you respond to upsets, problems, hurts, and how you respond and return to those you love and to yourself with ways to accept the pain, heal it, and move on. Wounds don’t go away without a little thought and awareness. However, forgiveness often cannot be forced. Forgiveness begins with a willingness to see where you have been too hard on yourself and others and resisted the openness that would allow forgiveness to happen.

Relationships don’t hold together because we and our society don’t provide spaces or opportunities for people to deal with grief.

So my recommendation for those of you looking to change your relationships to a brighter and more loving note is to first start by not pointing fingers at others and what they did, soften, feel your own pain and ask yourself, “what I’m feeling”? Then once you allow yourself to feel and feel it, you will notice a softness, maybe sadness, or a lot of feeling. Then ask yourself “If I had to love myself, what would I do with this feeling?” That what you start the transformation process that is not about doing, but about transforming the feelings that prevent us from feeling capable of doing, creating and being who we are.

Only when we create parenting approaches and practices for ourselves will the pain within us be confronted and accepted. And then the individual will be able to let go and come into their relationships with joy, acceptance, and a deeper, safer space to be vulnerable and share that with someone they want deeper intimacy with.

Start asking questions about how you can be more accepting of the parts of yourself that are too quick to criticize, stress, or expect others to be ‘perfect.’ The peace of mind you can give yourself will quickly spread to your loved ones.