Marriage is something that has been practiced all over the world for centuries. Marriage in the Middle East seems so strange compared to a marriage in the Western world, it can be wrong in a way. We all know the classic exercise, a girl meets a guy and they start dating, hanging out then turns into a date and then the date turns into an engagement and finally the engagement turns into a marriage. A marriage in the Middle East is actually the exact opposite, a boy makes the decision to get married so his mother finds a bride for him, once they find the bride, they immediately propose after only an hour of conversation . After the proposal they both start dating, going out to dinner and spending time in public, after the proposal comes the wedding and they all live happily ever after. Yes, that’s how marriage stories are supposed to portray, but why doesn’t the Middle Eastern woman ask herself “why doesn’t marriage work?” She may ask herself, but does she really take the time to find the answer?
The main problem with failed marriages in the Middle East is not knowing each other well enough before joining for life.
Marriage is usually successful before the actual wedding, that’s because it doesn’t feel forced, there’s no contract, you don’t sign or live together. You have the complete freedom to do what you want and leave when you see that things are not going well, as soon as the contract is raised and once you start living together as a couple, the feeling of being locked up arises. . You might find yourself fighting over a messy bathroom, or if your man leaves his underwear on the floor, or if he isn’t listening to you. Yes, men live a completely different way when they are alone, as for a woman, women live clean and organized lives, I shouldn’t dare to generalize about women, but compared to most men, women are much more organized. The main question arises “How can I live with another man?”
The answer is to actually talk to him instead of cleaning up after him. You should always see your man as your son, it may seem strange but it actually works once you try it. If you clean up after him, you’re giving him the impression that if he continues to leave his pants or socks on the floor, you’ll be there to pick them up right away. Don’t let him think you’re there to pick it up, talk to him and tell him you’re not cleaning for him because the last time you checked on him you didn’t sign up to be a cleaner. Some women may still think, “but there are requirements to become a wife…” Yes, but are there requirements to become a husband?
Communication is key when it comes to marriage, letting your man know what kind of woman you are is the foundation of your long life together. Let’s imagine you never tell your man how you feel or how you are, imagine picking up his clothes, washing the bathroom after him for the rest of your days living together as a married couple, not the most pleasant sight. Always remember that communication is key!
For a woman raised in the western world, say in the United States, this article may be an easy task or she may not need any of this advice because she actually met her husband before marriage and decided if he was the right guy for her. live and share a life.
With a Middle Eastern woman, telling her to contact her husband and tell him she doesn’t want to pick up his dirt sounds like a death wish.
With the modern world starting before our eyes with technology, we see that technology is not the only thing that is advancing, marriage is too. Fortunately, younger women in the Middle East have an advantage, modern men are more open to their wives and accepting of their opinions, unlike the older generation. This means that talking to her husband will be much easier.
Now, you may be asking yourself, “how can I find the right time and the right tone to talk to my husband about something I’m not comfortable with?”
There are so many ways you could engage your husband before talking to him about your problems, going for coffee is the quintessential place to have a nice conversation, have a coffee, go to the nearest Starbucks and start engaging. Maybe some couples want a quieter approach, a local library or a park are all places to be when you’re ready to tell them. Now comes the question of tone. Start by showing him that he is not afraid or shy, show confidence in his speech and body language, let him know that he is not angry. Men tend to back off or lose interest in her wife as soon as they see that she is angry or upset about something.
While talking to him, get straight to the point, don’t go up and down, left to right, just get to the point and you will surely get his attention.
Now that you’re all set and you’ve laid out your tools, now it’s time to get to work.
Let’s use the example of cleaning up after your man as an example for your problem, and then tell him how it makes you feel dissatisfied because once a man thinks he’s got his woman ‘in the bag’, he’s bound to give her his full attention. . What do you have to say?