Long distance relationships can work, but you can’t be lazy

Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

That quote should resonate in the minds and hearts of anyone who is currently involved in a long distance relationship. Even if you are thinking of getting involved in one, that date will save you a lot of time, which would have been wasted with doubts and uncertainties.

REPLACE THE FALSE CONCEPTION

This quote should replace the common mindset that “long distance relationships don’t work” or even “long distance relationships are doomed from the start.”

With that kind of misconception, it’s no wonder why so many people seem to avoid this particular type of relationship altogether. The problem is that the high number of failed long-distance relationships seems to overshadow the growing number of successful long-distance relationships.

The key to making sure your long distance relationship is successful is simple: hard work.

It takes a lot of work and constant effort to keep the flame of a long distance relationship burning bright.

Yes, it is essential to make regular visits to be able to see each other whenever possible without the other person feeling suffocated. However, that doesn’t mean you’re off the clock when it comes to working on your relationship between those face-to-face visits.

EVERYONE NEEDS PEACE OF MIND

Your partner is looking for the same thing as you: peace of mind. The certainty that you still feel a lot for them. The assurance that you are as invested in making the relationship work as you are now. The assurance that you will do whatever it takes to make it work, regardless of the odds that claim it’s unlikely.

Therefore, you must put in the time, effort, and hard work necessary to provide that peace of mind on every level. Why? Three reasons.

1) Law of Reciprocity: If you do, he/she will likely reciprocate your efforts to provide the same level of reassurance.

two) value, value, value: Who doesn’t want to feel valued and appreciated? Putting the time and effort into making your relationship work, despite the physical distance that separates you, will add value to your bond and make your partner feel valued at the same time. At the end of the day, isn’t that what you want?

3) True love is cultivated over time: A long distance relationship shares one great similarity with a short distance relationship: true love takes time to develop. An unknown person once said that “true love does not mean being inseparable; it means being apart and nothing changes.” Basically, this goes back to peace of mind – making sure you and your partner stay on the same page.

THE BOTTOM LINE

There is nothing wrong with being in a long distance relationship. Although a great number of these ties break and burn, there are still quite a few that still fly high on the clouds of love. The difference between crashing and flying is the amount of hard work you put in to keep your relationship off the ground.

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