If you’re going to be selfish, be really selfish

Has someone accused you of being selfish, self-centered, or self-absorbed? These insults (and their cousins) rush through the human social sphere, spreading to touch every remote corner. Western cultures are less collectivistic than most, however doing your thing will continue to attract criticism.

These insults work because there is a grain of truth in them. It is a terrible thing and an empty life to focus only on yourself. If you burn the world to satisfy a craving, that’s bad. Do not do that.

But you wouldn’t do that. People who would read different types of articles.

And since you are better than that, I am here to absolve you. You can free yourself from any guilt for being too selfish.

In fact, I insist that you become more selfish, self-centered, and self-centered.

Do practices like self-hypnosis and meditation. The easiest way to do this is to close your eyes, erase the world, forget your problems, and explore your own mind.

Losing contact with the world to look inside yourself? Wow, how self-absorbed.

When you do this regularly, who benefits? Everyone around you, sure … but who benefits the most?

You do. In fact, you are the only person who directly benefits. Everyone else enjoys the new person you become, which is much less interesting than what you are doing.

How selfish.

You probably know people whose identity lies outside of them. They are like flags, waving in whatever direction the wind pushes them. If someone laughs at your jokes, it feels good. If someone disagrees with them, it is like a personal attack.

They need approval and validation to work. Without it, your ego withers.

These people are not self-centered at all. In fact, their core is outside of what they can control.

However, when you work on your mind, bring your center within yourself. What other people say or do is your business. It affects you, of course, but it doesn’t dictate your mood or your actions.

Practicing self-hypnosis and meditation makes you selfish, self-centered, and self-absorbed. And that is exactly the recipe you need. It frees you to focus on yourself, to solve your own problems, and to serve your community however you want.

Treat this as permission to be free. The world needs you at your best, living the life that’s right for you.

And if someone feels threatened by your personal growth and tries to bring you down, help them by selfishly ignoring them. If they are smart, they will figure it out.