8 relationship success tips for gay men as a couple

Introduction

As gay men, they have struggled and endured all the challenges inherent in finding true love with another man in this homophobic society, but they succeeded! You found your Mr. Right! And now that ?!

Not only did we as gay men not receive any education or guidance on how to date another man, but we certainly did not get the training manual on how to maintain an intimate and healthy relationship.
with him once we found our ideal boy and decided to form a commitment with him. Gay couples can be very rewarding and satisfying, but they require conscious effort and attention to foster their successful growth and intimacy. What follows is a short list of tips that gay couples can use as a quick reference guide to keep their relationships on track. Keep these points in mind and you have a solid foundation for making your relationship solid gold!

Tips for a successful relationship

1. Avoid putting all your emotional needs on your partner.
Develop your own individual identity, and through those experiences, your relationship will be enriched as you continue to breathe new life into it.

2. Even if you’ve been together a long time, never expect your partner to know what your needs are. Reading minds and making assumptions only leads to misunderstandings and potential conflicts. Learn to be assertive and ask directly for what you want.

3. Do a regular “check-in” with your partner to reexamine how the relationship is going and how satisfied you and your partner are. This keeps communication channels open and can help renew the relationship, reinforcing positive areas and uncovering areas that need attention before things get too wrong.

4. Characteristic of the development of the relationship, most couples have a decrease in that “high” honeymoon phase that is experienced at the beginning of a relationship when they began to date. This is normal and is not a reason to worry that something is necessarily wrong. When this happens, strive to bring more creativity and vitality into your relationship and sex life to spice things up. Surprise your partner. Be spontaneous and playful. Make him see how special and important he is to you.

5. Examine your satisfaction with the roles you play in your relationship. A real advantage of gay relationships is the ability to be flexible with life roles and not have to adhere to the traditional stereotypes of sex roles commonly held in heterosexual relationships. Negotiate such roles and tasks openly and freely with your partner, recognizing areas of strength and talent in this decision making.

6. Avoid turning disagreements into unpleasant verbal battles in which things can be said that are later regretted. Learn the basics of anger management and know when to ask for a “break” to calm unproductive anger. Also, learn how to get involved again after the cool-down period so issues can be resolved peacefully.

7. Legally protect your relationship by seeking the help of an attorney to obtain the necessary legal documents that fit the particular situation of your relationship, including powers of attorney, wills, beneficiary designations, etc. Planning ahead with such things can ensure everyone is taken care of in case something jeopardizes your union.

8. Don’t let the busyness of life take away from your relationship. Find a balance between work, time alone, friends, family, and time with your partner. Make “date night” a regular part of your lifestyle where you avoid discussing your problems or issues and simply enjoy spending that quality time together. Never take each other for granted and remember that you are a team.

© 2004 Brian L. Rzepczynski

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